Last night, I made the mistake of watching a few episodes of the tv show Bridezillas. I had to watch a few episodes, because the story of the particular bride I was watching continued on for several episodes. Even taking an hour off to talk to Kevin, I still had to watch another entire episode to see what happened.
This woman was completely ridiculous. She kept saying that she didn't want to get married, she didn't like anything about her groom, she wanted to cancel the wedding, that she wasn't even remotely attracted to her fiancee. He surprised her at one point by taking her ice skating, something she apparently enjoyed in the past. However, she flipped out, stating that they could break their legs and DIE in the course of this reckless behavior. After a few minutes, she got made that he wasn't very good at skating and was keeping her from going fast. Then she stormed off and again continued on the many reasons she shouldn't marry him. Even minutes before the wedding, she didn't want to go through with it. Then after the wedding, her first response was "Divorce is always an option.".
Oh. my. word. I can't imagine vowing to spend the rest of my life, good times and bad, sickness and health, with someone I couldn't stand. I can't imagine constantly throwing fits and making Kevin calm me down. Or telling Kevin repeatedly that I do not want to marry him? Not a chance. I don't know why this woman agreed to get married, but it seemed like she...well, she was a bit crazy all around.
There are very few things that I have said are my non-negotiables for the wedding. I want a big white dress. I want my uncle to do the ceremony. I want to marry Kevin. That's it. And you know what? Even if I couldn't have those other things, the important thing to me is that I love Kevin and I want to spend the rest of my life with him. The wedding day is just that: ONE day. The marriage should last a lifetime. And no, divorce is NOT an option.
In other good news, Kevin and I finally decided on our Save The Dates. We're doing magnets that come with envelopes and will arrive at Kevin's house in about 2 weeks. Very exciting!! When I saw them, I knew they were the right one. The color is excellent and actually matches Kevin's shirt in the pictures!
Thursday, August 30, 2012
Wednesday, August 29, 2012
You know you're in love when...
This morning I had one of those moments. You know you're in love when you wake up after a weird dream and can't wait to discuss it with the other person. This will be, I'm sure, immensely more feasible after we're married. As it stands now, we mostly talk in the evenings and the occasional text during the day. So first thing in the morning, I couldn't tell Kevin about my crazy dream in which we bought a really expensive apartment in the cities only to pay for it by selling a painting that was in the apartment (and therefore came with the apartment), basically making said really expensive apartment free. Ok, the story was much longer than that, but let's just say it was weird.
Last night, Kevin and I had a meeting over Skype with another photographer. This couple named Shem and Joy own a company called Unique Touch Photography. We're currently interested in them to do our wedding, since the last photographers fell through. We had a very good rapor with Shem and every thing seems to have gone well. Their price is actually slightly cheaper than the other photographer's PLUS we get the winter discount. Who knew the end of March still counted as winter? Shem had some really great ideas for caterers, flowers, and picture locations. He made a suggestion that more or less stole my heart, or at the very least made it flutter. He suggested that we rent out Mayowood Mansion for an hour or two and do our pictures there. YES PLEASE! If Kevin and I had been in the same room, I would have batted my eyelashes, gave a winning smile and hugged him. He would have gotten the idea. I think even over skype he knew that the suggestion was sort of like a fairytale dream come true.
The biggest question mark for signing the photographer is time. We basically need 2 and a half hours AFTER the wedding for photography, since we don't want to see each other before the wedding. (Not changing my mind!) What do we do with our guests for almost 3 hours? Send them to a movie? Send them back to their hotel rooms? Set out board games? Somehow I don't think a jenga tournament is in the future. Although a Euchre tournament...that I could see.
Last night, Kevin and I had a meeting over Skype with another photographer. This couple named Shem and Joy own a company called Unique Touch Photography. We're currently interested in them to do our wedding, since the last photographers fell through. We had a very good rapor with Shem and every thing seems to have gone well. Their price is actually slightly cheaper than the other photographer's PLUS we get the winter discount. Who knew the end of March still counted as winter? Shem had some really great ideas for caterers, flowers, and picture locations. He made a suggestion that more or less stole my heart, or at the very least made it flutter. He suggested that we rent out Mayowood Mansion for an hour or two and do our pictures there. YES PLEASE! If Kevin and I had been in the same room, I would have batted my eyelashes, gave a winning smile and hugged him. He would have gotten the idea. I think even over skype he knew that the suggestion was sort of like a fairytale dream come true.
The biggest question mark for signing the photographer is time. We basically need 2 and a half hours AFTER the wedding for photography, since we don't want to see each other before the wedding. (Not changing my mind!) What do we do with our guests for almost 3 hours? Send them to a movie? Send them back to their hotel rooms? Set out board games? Somehow I don't think a jenga tournament is in the future. Although a Euchre tournament...that I could see.
Friday, August 24, 2012
I feel so blessed!
My immediate family and my close friends have all heard this more than a few times, but I just feel so blessed by God. If you had told me a few years ago that I would meet a wonderful man and start dating him, I would have said "I wish!". If you had told me that he would be so perfect for me and we'd be an excellent match, I wouldn't have believed you. If you told me he would propose, buying me a ring more beautiful than I would imagine, I would have shook my head. If you told me that I would soon be moving to Rochester, planning a wedding to my best friend, that my bunny would adore him, and that he would treat me like a princess...I don't know what I would have said or done. Because really, all of this is beyond my imagination. To think that in less than 7 months, we'll be married. How exciting! That in a year or two, we'll be trying to have kids! Incredible! He already owns his own house, so we don't have to worry about apartments or trying to buy a house, or worrying that my credit would make things difficult. Nope.
Yesterday, it was 90 degrees and it was especially hot in my room. I texted Kevin and I asked him to guess where I would be, if I could be almost anywhere, right then. He didn't guess right but I think he liked my answer. I would have chosen to be in his basement, cuddling with him on the couch we bought together. It's so cool and refreshing down there, and if I got too chilly, Kevin would keep me warm.
Sometimes, I still marvel at how wonderfully this has worked out. I can't question it, because it is so clearly God at work. God brought Kevin into my life. And I am so very thankful.
Yesterday, it was 90 degrees and it was especially hot in my room. I texted Kevin and I asked him to guess where I would be, if I could be almost anywhere, right then. He didn't guess right but I think he liked my answer. I would have chosen to be in his basement, cuddling with him on the couch we bought together. It's so cool and refreshing down there, and if I got too chilly, Kevin would keep me warm.
Sometimes, I still marvel at how wonderfully this has worked out. I can't question it, because it is so clearly God at work. God brought Kevin into my life. And I am so very thankful.
Thursday, August 23, 2012
Seven Months To Go!
The count-down has begun! Well, it really began when we set the date. But still, only 7 months until Kevin and I get married! I am so excited!!
Last night I got to have a girl's night with my lovely Matron of Honor Caitlyn and my (hopefully) future flower girl, Savannah. Savannah is about 13 months old now and SO CUTE and SO SMART! She learns very quickly. She's stringing words together, she recognizes animals by name, sound, and picture, and she can now say her favorite color, purple. Which is a good favorite color to have, since it's one of the wedding colors. :-D She can walk, run, and put away her toys. Soon, she'll be potty training since she already clearly lets her parents know when she needs a new diaper.
Ultimately, it was really great to have a girl's night with Caitlyn. With all the wedding stress plus life getting stressful in general, it's really great to just talk and laugh. Caitlyn and I always have a great time and I don't know what I'd do without her.
This weekend, Kevin and I had planned to go to the Minnesota State Fair but I suggested we skip it this year. We're going up to the cities next weekend with Kevin's parents anyhow. We'll have a nice quiet evening of pizza, board games, and Doctor Who. I love being engaged to a fellow geek! Time to do more wedding planning. Guest list and save the date cards are next on the agenda!
Last night I got to have a girl's night with my lovely Matron of Honor Caitlyn and my (hopefully) future flower girl, Savannah. Savannah is about 13 months old now and SO CUTE and SO SMART! She learns very quickly. She's stringing words together, she recognizes animals by name, sound, and picture, and she can now say her favorite color, purple. Which is a good favorite color to have, since it's one of the wedding colors. :-D She can walk, run, and put away her toys. Soon, she'll be potty training since she already clearly lets her parents know when she needs a new diaper.
Ultimately, it was really great to have a girl's night with Caitlyn. With all the wedding stress plus life getting stressful in general, it's really great to just talk and laugh. Caitlyn and I always have a great time and I don't know what I'd do without her.
This weekend, Kevin and I had planned to go to the Minnesota State Fair but I suggested we skip it this year. We're going up to the cities next weekend with Kevin's parents anyhow. We'll have a nice quiet evening of pizza, board games, and Doctor Who. I love being engaged to a fellow geek! Time to do more wedding planning. Guest list and save the date cards are next on the agenda!
Tuesday, August 21, 2012
Wishing and Hoping and Planning and Dreaming...
As will happen many times during wedding planning (says my reassuring mother), we have had a hiccup. The photographers we (or rather I) wanted are...let's go with no longer available to photograph our wedding. Which means that we are once again in search of wedding photographers. Thankfully, Kevin is a wonderfully patient man who dealt well with my stressing out. I also attempted not to stress out too much. This stress, too, shall pass. It will all work out. I told Kevin last night that I would still want to marry him even if we didn't have any photographers at all.
Kevin also reassured me that it's a bit late to go to Vegas. Drat.
But in the theme of weddings, I heard a song I have long enjoyed on the radio this morning. I remember it from My Best Friend's Wedding. Wishing and hoping and planning and dreaming... This song really does give the worst advice EVER for a relationship. If you want true love, just do whatever he wants to do, look the way he wants you to look, and generally go along with whatever he would like. Then you'll be his. Um. No. Some of the best advice I ever heard was that if you want to be in a relationship, you should start with being in a relationship with yourself. Take yourself out on dates, do the things YOU want to do, and look your best the way you feel the most beautiful (or handsome). Knowing yourself, being confident in your own likes and dislikes, and treating yourself with respect are WAY more attractive traits than just bending to someone else's will just because they decided to take you on a date. Also, hiding who you are is essentially lying to the other person, so you're basing your entire relationship on a whole big ball of lies.
With that said, I can rest assured that I have never hid who I really am and Kevin loves me just as I am. I love him to bits just as he is, as well. :-D
Kevin also reassured me that it's a bit late to go to Vegas. Drat.
But in the theme of weddings, I heard a song I have long enjoyed on the radio this morning. I remember it from My Best Friend's Wedding. Wishing and hoping and planning and dreaming... This song really does give the worst advice EVER for a relationship. If you want true love, just do whatever he wants to do, look the way he wants you to look, and generally go along with whatever he would like. Then you'll be his. Um. No. Some of the best advice I ever heard was that if you want to be in a relationship, you should start with being in a relationship with yourself. Take yourself out on dates, do the things YOU want to do, and look your best the way you feel the most beautiful (or handsome). Knowing yourself, being confident in your own likes and dislikes, and treating yourself with respect are WAY more attractive traits than just bending to someone else's will just because they decided to take you on a date. Also, hiding who you are is essentially lying to the other person, so you're basing your entire relationship on a whole big ball of lies.
With that said, I can rest assured that I have never hid who I really am and Kevin loves me just as I am. I love him to bits just as he is, as well. :-D
Monday, August 20, 2012
The first post is always the hardest...
Well, let's start with the beginning. Kevin and I got engaged on June 30th at my cousin Jenni's wedding reception. I knew it was coming eventually, but I thought it would be two weeks later on our 1 year anniversary.
Since it's now August 20th, we have been engaged for almost two months. These past weeks have been both wonderful and amazingly stressful! So far, we have gotten our date set for March 23rd, 2013. We have reserved Kevin's church, Berean Community Church in Rochester. My uncle Jerry will be performing the ceremony. We are about to put down a deposit on both our reception venue and our photographers. Also, I have all my bridesmaids picked out and asked to be a part of our celebration. Best of all, I have picked an amazing dress and it's been ordered.
That just leaves...everything else...to do. We're working on finalizing the guest lists so we can send out save the date cards. I need to work on the save the date cards also. I need to pick bridesmaid dresses. We have barely discussed the rehearsal dinner. We're starting to register. Eventually, we'll have all of this nailed down.
Besides all that wonderful planning stress, I'm also looking for a job in Rochester. Anyone know of the perfect job for me? Hopefully I can find a job in Rochester and move there. I was actually hoping to have moved already but it just hasn't worked out that way.
Ultimately, though, God is sovereign. This is something He will get us through. I'm also really glad that Kevin has been doing his part of the planning as well at trying to keep me as sane and stress-free as possible.
Since it's now August 20th, we have been engaged for almost two months. These past weeks have been both wonderful and amazingly stressful! So far, we have gotten our date set for March 23rd, 2013. We have reserved Kevin's church, Berean Community Church in Rochester. My uncle Jerry will be performing the ceremony. We are about to put down a deposit on both our reception venue and our photographers. Also, I have all my bridesmaids picked out and asked to be a part of our celebration. Best of all, I have picked an amazing dress and it's been ordered.
That just leaves...everything else...to do. We're working on finalizing the guest lists so we can send out save the date cards. I need to work on the save the date cards also. I need to pick bridesmaid dresses. We have barely discussed the rehearsal dinner. We're starting to register. Eventually, we'll have all of this nailed down.
Besides all that wonderful planning stress, I'm also looking for a job in Rochester. Anyone know of the perfect job for me? Hopefully I can find a job in Rochester and move there. I was actually hoping to have moved already but it just hasn't worked out that way.
Ultimately, though, God is sovereign. This is something He will get us through. I'm also really glad that Kevin has been doing his part of the planning as well at trying to keep me as sane and stress-free as possible.
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